If you are looking for ways to improve your relationship, then you may want to start here. I am going to suggest seven ways that you can use to building trust in a relationship. Usually, we think to improve a relationship, we must always make things exciting to keep the romance going. Well, that would be wrong. And the last thing you would think that does improve the level of trust in a relationship is… predictability!

First way to building trust in a relationship:

Be predictable. Forget the magazines and TV shows that say you must stir up the pot. It’s nonsense. Being consistent and reliable goes much, much further than that in terms of trusting your partner.

Second way to building trust in a relationship:

Your words must match what you do. In so many words, you need to show sincerity with your words. They say verbal cues are a very small part of total communication and that is so true. I call it “passive aggressive” when you are unhappy but show a happy face. But I think you know what I mean here.

Third way to building trust in relationship:

You have to trust your partner’s instinct. I mean come on here! How can you expect anybody for that matter, to trust you if you don’t trust them? Trusting is a two way street.

Fourth way to building trust in relationship:

Don’t lie by omission. Don’t keep secrets from your partner. Because once your partner finds out about something you are keeping a secret (and believe me they will), you better believe they won’t be able to trust you anymore. And why keep secrets from your partner? You have to keep track of the lies to build bigger lies to bury the previous lies. And it goes on and on. It is way too much work. In my opinion, it is a total energy waster that can be easily made to go away by telling the truth.

Fifth way to building trust in relationship:

Your partner isn’t a mind reader. So don’t expect them to know what you need. It is OK to be literal here. And don’t worry, you won’t seem selfish here because your partner knows that relationships is give and go. Being reluctant to communicate your needs to your partner will just worry them needlessly. So tell your partner what you want!

Sixth way to building trust in relationship:

Be willing to say “No.” Suppose your partner communicates a needs that you don’t want to give, it is OK to say no. On the other hand, it is OK for your partner to ask. But think about it this way, your partner will respect you more if you don’t say yes to everything. Being a separate person helps build trust in a relationship.

The last and seventh way to building trust in relationship:

A relationship is a living and breathing thing. It takes work for it to be a handsome tree rather than a sickly bush. Don’t be afraid to deal with crisis, emotions and questions from your relationship. You should embrace it and look for solutions that will bring you closer. Continue to grow your relationship!

In summary, building trust in relationship does take some work. And sometimes you will stumble, but continue to move forward. I have given you seven ways that you can use right now to strengthen your relationship and make it as strong as a 1,000 year old Oak tree.

Time is a valuable asset. As a single parent, I know that getting to the place where romance is even a glimmer of a thought is sometimes challenging; But, I also know that it’s an important aspect of any relationship to preserve. When you lose that emotional connection, it’s easier to slip away. This does not mean that every encounter needs to be deeply meaningful, but keeping that spark alive in little ways is important.

Following are 10 quick (and mostly free) ideas that can help keep the connection strong:

1. Make sure to give good morning and bedtime kisses. It doesn’t matter if your lover is awake, a gentle kiss will subconsciously register your presence and caring. Even if your late or in a hurry, make sure to give a quick peck. It may sound silly, but little touches show love and build trust.
2. Sneak a note in your loved ones car on a weekday evening so they find it in the morning as they head out to work, or to run errands. It doesn’t have to be fancy or overtly sexual, just a quick, “You Rock” will do. I can assure you a smile will follow the discovery.
3. Send a ‘thinking of you’ text message to your significant other during the day. Again, similar to the note, just a quick connection to let your lover know that you think about them even when they’re not there. Even though they may know this, telling them always induces a snuggly, warm-all-over feeling.
4. Whatever your lover is doing, (washing dishes, sitting in a chair watching tv, etc..) give them a quick hug from behind and whisper something sweet in their ear. Do not scare them however, be loud enough so they know you’re there, and then gently hug ‘em from behind (or slap ‘em in the ass if that’s more to their liking ).
5. Buy a ‘thinking of you card’ and mail it them. (this is especially good if your significant other doesn’t live with you, but it works well even if they do). It costs like $3, takes 5 minutes (well, I know some of use spend way to long reading every card, but you get the drift), and will be a nice little day brightener.
6. Reserve a night during the week for an evening of sitting on your butts, snuggling on the couch, watching TV (even if it involves Blue Animals or Princesses so the kids are quiet.) Snuggling is just another form of touch that helps to build closeness and trust.
7. Ask your significant other about their day, and listen to their response. Sometimes in the busy-ness of daily life we forget to keep up with the most important stories of the day, those about the people for whom we love. Once you start listening, you’ll love to catch up each day.
8. Write a ’steamy’ note on the bathroom mirror, so it show’s up when they get out of the shower. Or use lipstick to ensure it stays long enough. Yeah, it’s an oldy, but definitely a goody…have you done it?
9. Order/buy something sexy (lingerie, massage oil, chocolate, sexy shoes, etc.) and have it shipped to your loved one with a note regarding the use of the item. Desired results are almost 100% assured.
10. Tell your lover he/she looks hot…everyone likes to be hot to someone, and if you are that person’s significant other, you ARE the person they want to be hot for.

NOTE: DO NOT do all of these in one day, or even one week. Spread the love out over time and continue spreading. You will reap the rewards of a fully connected, trusting relationship. When couples trust each other and are connected, amazing things can happen.

Sure, candles are great to provide light when the electricity goes out; but what about when you want to have a nice romantic evening? Is romance a dead “art”? It doesn’t have to be.   Candles, especially scented candles, add your favorite fragrance to your room and give it a nice warm glow as well. And just for the record, this isn’t a guy or girl thing; it’s for anyone who wants to show their “special someone” how much they care. Okay, let’s be honest; we’ve seen enough movies to know when it’s a “special night”, candles are everywhere!  

You don’t have to have a boat load of candles like in the movies. If it’s a special dinner, then a lovely set of tapers in the center of the table is just a right touch. If you’re having a “special night”; how about a few votive candles around the tub? Or maybe a couple of scented pillar candles on the night stand.   

Now listen up all you guys who think candles are too “girlie”! Your lady will think you’re such a big, romantic, teddy bear when she sees that you took the time and effort to make her evening special. You will score major points with her; especially if you get her favorite fragrance! You do know her favorite fragrance, right? I’m not advocating manipulation here; I’m just suggesting that when you really care about a person, it pleases you to please them.  

For ladies who may be a little shy about revealing your “complete” self to your partner on a romantic evening, several candles in the room will provide just the right amount of light. We know what a few kids and one burger too many can do to our figures! Light your room with a few candles and your voluptuousness has a glow. With scented candles the room swirls with fragrance. You’re on your way to a very nice evening!   Romance is not “dead”.  Revive it in your life with a little imagination and a few candles.  

The holidays. Everyone is glad that they get to spend time with the ones they love. But, it is also a reminder for many that there is no love currently in their life. Or that the one that is in their life should not be there in the first place. So many people go through the holiday season looking for that special someone.

If you are one of them, there are many things you should be doing and many you should not. Right now let’s focus on what you should not be doing.

DON’T FALL INTO THE TRAP OF DOING THESE 4 THINGS!

1. Showing signs of desperation. The only people that are really attracted to desperate people are not the kind you want to attract. Many people show their desperation without even realizing it and in doing so, they send out a signal to all of the wrong people.

2. Think of the bar scene as being more than it really is. The holidays gets the liquor flowing and many people become a whole lot friendlier than they really are. Or they can easily become expert manipulators with a couple of shots. The bar scene is still what it is even during the holidays.

3. Hook up with someone just to be with someone. No matter what time of year it is, this is one of the worst things you can do. And the holidays make a lot of people do this more than they normally would. You can be perfectly all right without someone and it is much better to wait fro the right person than to just hook up with anyone.

4. Secretly wish for Santa to bring you someone this Christmas. Wishes are no good. They don’t come true. You have to do more than just wish. It’s that simple.

WANT TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN ATTRACT SOMEONE DURING THE HOLIDAYS OR ANY TIME OF THE YEAR?