Even though your partner promises you that he or she will never cheat again, your mind and soul just can’t seem to get to grips that what your partner is saying could be the truth. The only thing that comes to mind is that if you partner has done it once, he or she will most probably do it again. This brings back feelings of extreme jealousy and hurt because you just don’t want to be put in that situation again.

These feelings are extremely normal, so there is no need to feel ashamed or bad about having them. After all, you were the one that has been cheated on. However, as normal as these feelings are, if you and your partner has agreed to continue and rebuild the relationship, you’re going to have to do your part in dealing with these powerful negative feelings of jealousy and hurt.

Here are a few tips that you can use in order to get to grips with your emotions so that you can rebuild your relationship with your partner once again;

Both of you have to decide how you want the relationship to be from this point onwards. In order to do this, it is crucial that the two of you sit down and really talk about it. Ask each other what changes you want to make in the relationship. Once both yourself and your partner have put forward the changes that each of you would like to make in the relationship, the both of you then need to sincerely acknowledge as to whether you agree to the changes that have been proposed by each party. Avoid getting into negative talk. The idea of talking about rebuilding and putting forward ideas of change is a way to help you get over the negativity of the affair and instead concentrate on how you and your partner can once again become close.

Learn to listen to your inner self. Take a step back and listen to your thoughts and feelings without any emotion getting involved. This is very difficult to do, however, by consciously looking at yourself in an objective manner, you will be able to question your feelings and thoughts more intelligently. You will be able to understand your feelings of hurt and jealousy, thus allowing you to be able to better control these feelings so that you can move forward with the relationship.

Do your best to stay in the present. Many people will tell you that you can learn from the past, and in most cases this is true. However, there is a difference between learning from the past and dwelling in the past. In order to move forward in rebuilding your relationship with your partner, dwelling on all the negative feelings that have derived from what happened in the past will do nothing more than enforce hurt, anger, and finally a breakup or divorce.

By keeping these points in mind, you will find that it becomes a bit more easier to deal with all the powerful emotions of hurt, anger and jealousy that you are experiencing from the affair. However, remember that you can only truly make your relationship work again if you have been sincere to yourself that you would like to give it another chance.