Did you know that two out of five single people in the UK now use some kind of on line dating service? That’s 40% of all singles! Unfortunately, the percentage of these people who actually find a real romance as a direct result of their site memberships is very low – probably less than 10%.

Why is this? Well, it’s true that some sites are better than others; they have more
traffic, they are better to navigate; they just ‘work’ whilst others just don’t. But what
really matters is how you use a site when you actually sign-up to one. Take my word
for it, unless you take the five simple steps that I’m about to outline, you may as
well do something more productive with your time than join a singles site. What I’m
about to say may sound obvious and rather simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how
many people don’t bother doing the ‘obvious’. So here goes…

1. Create A Great Profile. This is the most important aspect of your dating site
experience. Don’t just say ‘Nice guy seeks nice girl for trips to the cinema’ – how
boring does that sound? Take the time to say something about yourself, your
lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you’re hoping to meet. And
remember to sound happy, upbeat, fun and confident; if you’re miserable about
your recent breakup, then keep it to yourself! This isn’t the time for modesty; if you
think you’re pretty darn attractive, then be sure to say so. And humour is a real ice-
breaker – if you can make someone laugh, they’ll be more likely to want to contact
you.

2. Always Upload A Photo. Even if you don’t have a very flattering one to hand, you
should always post a pic with your profile. Remember, 95% of people on dating sites
only search for other members who have bothered to provide a picture of
themselves. You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to
reason that other people will want to know what you look like too. If your photo isn’t
recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile.

3. Be Proactive. Don’t just join a site and expect other people to contact you. Make
sure you regularly search the database for people with whom you might be
compatible and when you find someone you like the look or sound of, write to them
immediately and tell them why you think you might be a good fit.

4. Write Great Emails. OK, you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve searched for other
members who fall within your specified categories, and you’ve been presented with
a page of matching profiles. You’re eager to fire off a few emails…but what on earth
do you say in them? Re-read the paragraph above about creating a great profile and
apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another member. If it looks
like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line
message to several people, then they probably wont bother to reply. Tell that person
a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible -
respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and
interesting and you’ll get an email by return – sound boring and downbeat and
you’ll just be ignored.

5. Check Back With The Site. There are two reasons why you should do this as often
as possible. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since
you last logged-on; that special someone might have signed-up since you last
visited the site so don’t miss out. However, what most people don’t realise is that
when you log-in to a dating site, your profile moves up the listings on the internal
search engine which means that you are more likely to be spotted and subsequently
contacted by other people. Don’t be a stranger to the site you’ve joined and I
recommend that you visit the site at least once a day during the lifetime of your
membership.

So there you have it – 5 easy ways to make your chosen dating site work for YOU.
Have fun and happy hunting!

Jonathan White is the founder of http://www.cupidnights.com a London-only dating site and the most successful geo-targeted site in Europe. He writes on the singles scene for various newspapers and magazines.

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So consider this right here to be your eye-opener. I don’t even care if it takes TAPING your upper eyelids to your eyebrows and your lower ones to your cheeks..because I don’t want you to go ANYWHERE until you see what I see alright!?

And today, the sights to feast your eyes on are..ONLINE LOCATIONS.

I can’t understand why people stick to one (1) profile, I just can’t..and in a moment you’re gonna find out why that will be YOUR unfair advantage over the lousy competition.

Here’s the story: Marie MySpace has a profile on MySpace, while her outrageously hot sister Veronica has one on Facebook but NOT on MySpace..for no particular reason.

How are you ever going to find Veronica Facebook on MySpace? You WON’T..and there’s MySpace, Facebook, Match.com, Friendfinder.com, and site number 5 all the way to number 999..

Do you understand what this means?

It means having one profile means missing out on a LOT of women you COULD have met..maybe even women who live a couple of blocks away from you, wouldn’t you agree?

Say you would launch a second profile on another site, think of the advantages:

If you know what your doing with your profile (and you will when you read more of my stuff), so how to create ATTRACTION with it by NOT being boring and introducing some friggin’ excitement to a woman’s life..then you can just COPY PASTE all the profile info of site A, to site B. If your profile is any good, you will now receive messages from women FIRST..on BOTH sites! You will now have MASSIVE amounts of women replying to your messages..on BOTH sites!

So there you go..DOUBLING your results in a matter of minutes..

And I’d sure like to see a handsome guy who meets and dates women in clubs, bars or on the streets CLONE himself then and there, on the spot..so he can meet multiple women in multiple places..AT THE SAME TIME.

He can’t while YOU can, you guessed it..all online.

But we’re NOT through yet..

Because while most men remember that messaging new women is easier..because their email inbox is simply LESS full and you’ll stand out a LOT faster..EVERYBODY forgets NEW SITES.

You see, Myspace, Facebook and the likes are profitable..VERY profitable. So of course some other company will come in and try to eat their lunch, steal away their customers, create their own fan base and be rich. Heck, it’s what the economy LIVES on: competition. New social networking and dating sites are launched almost on a weekly basis (with social networks being the booming industry).

What’s in it for you? Think about it:

A new site means less people are on there, meaning LESS MEN are on there too. But WAIT– what do you mean competition? Are you kidding me? You’ll probably be the only guy there who actually knows what he’s DOING with meeting women online on that site!

There’s virtually NO competition, and because there’s hardly any competition, a woman’s profile inbox will be either EMPTY or near empty..making it A) easier for you to stand out in her inbox and B) she’ll be less annoyed and WAY more open to meeting new people because there’s no spam by losers involved.

There’s no country in the world that doesn’t have dating sites: international ones such as MySpace, Facebook and Match.com have members in every nation..and a LOT of members. While joining them can never hurt your game (and I recommend you join one of those international “Big Boys”), you want to go in the OPPOSITE direction when looking to go from one to several profiles..you will want to look into LOCAL sites, next to the new ones.

Local social networks and dating sites can be the ones in your language only, or for your region only (New York dating or whatever, just an example)..purely based on numbers this is a good idea. Why? While MySpace has millions of members, “New York Dating” (it’s a name I just made up) and other local sites may only contain tens of thousands or maybe a couple hundred thousand members. Less men = easier to stand out.

But the real fun of this “numbers game” begins when you’re going for truly new sites that you didn’t even know about before, but for which you get an invite that goes something like “Cynthia just created a new profile, and wants YOU to join!” Maybe a couple of thousand or tens of thousands of members, but that’s IT.

YES it means there will be less women there.

But YES it will also mean that she will receive WAY less boring, cheesy and needy messages per day from men..which makes standing out in her inbox easier AND creating attraction easier because there’s no “annoyance because of all the spam factor” anymore.

YES there are also less men there, so she just has less options for messaging herself, and when you combine these two MAJOR advantages? It’s like releasing a wolf in a barn full of meaty, delicious sheep..as it’s VERY likely that you’ll be the ONLY “predator” on there!

How to spot these new goldmines? Really simple..

• Watch your inbox, most social networking sites have a “send an invitation to friends option”, so a lot of times you’ll get invitations in your regular email inbox to join lesser known sites (new ones)..
• Ask women..I’ve noticed that the vast majority of invitations comes from women, so you can also ask your female friends/neighbors/relatives/colleagues and so on what sites they know or are on themselves..
• The news..you’ll be surprised of how many internet news is about the success of internet sites (duhhh)
• Google..search for dating plus your country name, in my case it would be “dating NL” for example. Search for “social networks” in your own language (in my language this would be “sociale netwerken”), know what I mean?

Some of my successes: running 4 profiles at the same time, while getting multiple phone numbers from women on all those sites totaling about 25 numbers a week! But man, that would have probably taken you the entire day to do, right? WRONG..one hour per day plus lunch break at work and THAT’S IT. And it could happen to you too..in a short afternoon.

There are other eye opening, secret shortcuts on your road to meeting and dating MASSIVE amounts of beautiful ladies via the internet, and many others.

Dennis Miedema is the owner of Win With Women, a web site and blog, dedicated to coaching and mentoring men on the art of dating women. Contact him at http://www.win-with-women.com .

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