Did you know that two out of five single people in the UK now use some kind of on line dating service? That’s 40% of all singles! Unfortunately, the percentage of these people who actually find a real romance as a direct result of their site memberships is very low – probably less than 10%.

Why is this? Well, it’s true that some sites are better than others; they have more
traffic, they are better to navigate; they just ‘work’ whilst others just don’t. But what
really matters is how you use a site when you actually sign-up to one. Take my word
for it, unless you take the five simple steps that I’m about to outline, you may as
well do something more productive with your time than join a singles site. What I’m
about to say may sound obvious and rather simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how
many people don’t bother doing the ‘obvious’. So here goes…

1. Create A Great Profile. This is the most important aspect of your dating site
experience. Don’t just say ‘Nice guy seeks nice girl for trips to the cinema’ – how
boring does that sound? Take the time to say something about yourself, your
lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you’re hoping to meet. And
remember to sound happy, upbeat, fun and confident; if you’re miserable about
your recent breakup, then keep it to yourself! This isn’t the time for modesty; if you
think you’re pretty darn attractive, then be sure to say so. And humour is a real ice-
breaker – if you can make someone laugh, they’ll be more likely to want to contact
you.

2. Always Upload A Photo. Even if you don’t have a very flattering one to hand, you
should always post a pic with your profile. Remember, 95% of people on dating sites
only search for other members who have bothered to provide a picture of
themselves. You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to
reason that other people will want to know what you look like too. If your photo isn’t
recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile.

3. Be Proactive. Don’t just join a site and expect other people to contact you. Make
sure you regularly search the database for people with whom you might be
compatible and when you find someone you like the look or sound of, write to them
immediately and tell them why you think you might be a good fit.

4. Write Great Emails. OK, you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve searched for other
members who fall within your specified categories, and you’ve been presented with
a page of matching profiles. You’re eager to fire off a few emails…but what on earth
do you say in them? Re-read the paragraph above about creating a great profile and
apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another member. If it looks
like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line
message to several people, then they probably wont bother to reply. Tell that person
a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible -
respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and
interesting and you’ll get an email by return – sound boring and downbeat and
you’ll just be ignored.

5. Check Back With The Site. There are two reasons why you should do this as often
as possible. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since
you last logged-on; that special someone might have signed-up since you last
visited the site so don’t miss out. However, what most people don’t realise is that
when you log-in to a dating site, your profile moves up the listings on the internal
search engine which means that you are more likely to be spotted and subsequently
contacted by other people. Don’t be a stranger to the site you’ve joined and I
recommend that you visit the site at least once a day during the lifetime of your
membership.

So there you have it – 5 easy ways to make your chosen dating site work for YOU.
Have fun and happy hunting!

Jonathan White is the founder of http://www.cupidnights.com a London-only dating site and the most successful geo-targeted site in Europe. He writes on the singles scene for various newspapers and magazines.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jonathan_White

So consider this right here to be your eye-opener. I don’t even care if it takes TAPING your upper eyelids to your eyebrows and your lower ones to your cheeks..because I don’t want you to go ANYWHERE until you see what I see alright!?

And today, the sights to feast your eyes on are..ONLINE LOCATIONS.

I can’t understand why people stick to one (1) profile, I just can’t..and in a moment you’re gonna find out why that will be YOUR unfair advantage over the lousy competition.

Here’s the story: Marie MySpace has a profile on MySpace, while her outrageously hot sister Veronica has one on Facebook but NOT on MySpace..for no particular reason.

How are you ever going to find Veronica Facebook on MySpace? You WON’T..and there’s MySpace, Facebook, Match.com, Friendfinder.com, and site number 5 all the way to number 999..

Do you understand what this means?

It means having one profile means missing out on a LOT of women you COULD have met..maybe even women who live a couple of blocks away from you, wouldn’t you agree?

Say you would launch a second profile on another site, think of the advantages:

If you know what your doing with your profile (and you will when you read more of my stuff), so how to create ATTRACTION with it by NOT being boring and introducing some friggin’ excitement to a woman’s life..then you can just COPY PASTE all the profile info of site A, to site B. If your profile is any good, you will now receive messages from women FIRST..on BOTH sites! You will now have MASSIVE amounts of women replying to your messages..on BOTH sites!

So there you go..DOUBLING your results in a matter of minutes..

And I’d sure like to see a handsome guy who meets and dates women in clubs, bars or on the streets CLONE himself then and there, on the spot..so he can meet multiple women in multiple places..AT THE SAME TIME.

He can’t while YOU can, you guessed it..all online.

But we’re NOT through yet..

Because while most men remember that messaging new women is easier..because their email inbox is simply LESS full and you’ll stand out a LOT faster..EVERYBODY forgets NEW SITES.

You see, Myspace, Facebook and the likes are profitable..VERY profitable. So of course some other company will come in and try to eat their lunch, steal away their customers, create their own fan base and be rich. Heck, it’s what the economy LIVES on: competition. New social networking and dating sites are launched almost on a weekly basis (with social networks being the booming industry).

What’s in it for you? Think about it:

A new site means less people are on there, meaning LESS MEN are on there too. But WAIT– what do you mean competition? Are you kidding me? You’ll probably be the only guy there who actually knows what he’s DOING with meeting women online on that site!

There’s virtually NO competition, and because there’s hardly any competition, a woman’s profile inbox will be either EMPTY or near empty..making it A) easier for you to stand out in her inbox and B) she’ll be less annoyed and WAY more open to meeting new people because there’s no spam by losers involved.

There’s no country in the world that doesn’t have dating sites: international ones such as MySpace, Facebook and Match.com have members in every nation..and a LOT of members. While joining them can never hurt your game (and I recommend you join one of those international “Big Boys”), you want to go in the OPPOSITE direction when looking to go from one to several profiles..you will want to look into LOCAL sites, next to the new ones.

Local social networks and dating sites can be the ones in your language only, or for your region only (New York dating or whatever, just an example)..purely based on numbers this is a good idea. Why? While MySpace has millions of members, “New York Dating” (it’s a name I just made up) and other local sites may only contain tens of thousands or maybe a couple hundred thousand members. Less men = easier to stand out.

But the real fun of this “numbers game” begins when you’re going for truly new sites that you didn’t even know about before, but for which you get an invite that goes something like “Cynthia just created a new profile, and wants YOU to join!” Maybe a couple of thousand or tens of thousands of members, but that’s IT.

YES it means there will be less women there.

But YES it will also mean that she will receive WAY less boring, cheesy and needy messages per day from men..which makes standing out in her inbox easier AND creating attraction easier because there’s no “annoyance because of all the spam factor” anymore.

YES there are also less men there, so she just has less options for messaging herself, and when you combine these two MAJOR advantages? It’s like releasing a wolf in a barn full of meaty, delicious sheep..as it’s VERY likely that you’ll be the ONLY “predator” on there!

How to spot these new goldmines? Really simple..

• Watch your inbox, most social networking sites have a “send an invitation to friends option”, so a lot of times you’ll get invitations in your regular email inbox to join lesser known sites (new ones)..
• Ask women..I’ve noticed that the vast majority of invitations comes from women, so you can also ask your female friends/neighbors/relatives/colleagues and so on what sites they know or are on themselves..
• The news..you’ll be surprised of how many internet news is about the success of internet sites (duhhh)
• Google..search for dating plus your country name, in my case it would be “dating NL” for example. Search for “social networks” in your own language (in my language this would be “sociale netwerken”), know what I mean?

Some of my successes: running 4 profiles at the same time, while getting multiple phone numbers from women on all those sites totaling about 25 numbers a week! But man, that would have probably taken you the entire day to do, right? WRONG..one hour per day plus lunch break at work and THAT’S IT. And it could happen to you too..in a short afternoon.

There are other eye opening, secret shortcuts on your road to meeting and dating MASSIVE amounts of beautiful ladies via the internet, and many others.

Dennis Miedema is the owner of Win With Women, a web site and blog, dedicated to coaching and mentoring men on the art of dating women. Contact him at http://www.win-with-women.com .

Article Source: http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Dennis_Miedema

Generally, most women will look for a deep masculine voice in a man. The best way to achieve this is by simply learning to use your diaphragm. Just as soon as our train to exercise their diaphragm and to breathe properly, the same should be applied for anyone that wishes to speak with confidence. By using this approach, you will automatically bring up the best qualities in your voice. This in turn will show confidence in yourself as a man, thus making it very difficult for a woman to ignore your presence.

The careful not to overdo it however. Remember, you are performing on the stage. You are simply having a conversation with a woman. By keeping this in mind, it is essential that you the natural and sincere when speaking with a woman. The only difference is that you’re doing it in a more confident manner.

In order to get the best out of your voice, you need to keep the tones and volume of it controlled. The best way to do this is by always making sure that the tones and volume of your voice is relevant to the topic that you’re talking about. In other words, if you would like to say something sexy to your woman, you would use a more whispery time, slightly lowering the pitch of your voice, as well as its volume. However, if you’ve made a decision to do something, you would save even more outspoken member, slightly raising the pitch and volume as well.

The careful not to fall in love with your voice. Listening is just as crucial as speaking. You have to keep the to balance when it comes to speaking not only with the woman, but with anyone in general. But of the talking, you are at risk of looking overly arrogant, or showing itself as an insecure person that feels you have to say a lot in order to show who you are. Therefore, keep things balanced, be confident, learn to breathe correctly, and learn to use the tones, pitch, and volume of your voice on the correct times during a conversation.

“Boy look at that lovely chick,” John discretely nodded in the direction of a sleek, blonde whose legs seem to reach the sky.

“I don’t know – she just looks like too much work,” Henry responded after studying her through a cloud of smoke rising lazily from the cigarette in his mouth.

“If she is anything like Helen I want to give it a miss,” John thought out loud, “she was like a ton of bricks around your shoulder.”

Unbeknown to many of you (women) men may label or pigeon-hole you as being “too much hard work.” Hence you may find the men would not generally initiate contact with you and if they do they tend to avoid you after a couple of contacts, because they may feel that you are too much work. Similarly men tend to mentally label some women as a great sport to be with.

What do men use to decide whether you are a nice challenge or too much work?

1. Your countenance or the general look on your face. Has anyone ever told you that you need to smile some more? If so you definitely need to practice wearing a smile. A pleasant smiley face tells a lot about. If you have a serious face, even if you would contend that is what God gave you at birth, man may avoid you or give you a wide berth. Not having a pleasant face may signal that you are a very difficult person to start a conversation with although this may not be true, people still judge the book by its cover.

a. I walked into a meeting the other day and saw a girl who flashed a ready smile at me. No she wasn’t really flirting because I noticed she did that to almost everyone. However I felt a natural urged to want to talk to her. She was almost magnetic. While not everyone could be like that, most of us can cultivate a pleasant face, it may feel contrived at first but after a while it will become natural.

2. The way you carry yourself. How you carry your body sends a lot of signals to people who see you. Do you walk with ease and grace, or do you drag yourself around? It is even worse if you give off an air of aristocracy as if you belong to the royal family and everyone else is a commoner. To learn how to carry your body take a look at how models walk and also remember to avoid slouching.

3. The way you speak and your ability to hold a decent conversation. I was once enraptured by a girl whose voice it thought was golden. Not only that he diction and vocabulary was rather impressive. She was a great conversationalist. She listened and asked the right questions at the right time. Many people tend to be afraid to speak to strangers because they don’t know what to say. Its rather simple. Always start by introducing yourself and asking the person their name. You can easily follow this up by telling them where you are from or what field of work you are in and ask about theirs. Find out if they enjoy their work, why they chose that profession etc. To increase you vocabulary, try reading at least 10-15 minutes a day and also listening to radio and television documentaries.

4. The energy and vibes you send out. The enthusiasm you have will magically rub off on other people. People will want to be with you. They will seek you out. Find something to be happy and joyful about. However you are too serious are worst dull most men will run a mile as they want to lighten up and have some fun. While many women say they like someone who can make them laugh, man men equally like to have a happy time when they are with you.

5. Do you have a life? I mean a full and active life. Apart from your work, are you engaged in hobbies, sports, educational clubs and other extra curricula activities? People who don’t have a life tend to be like dead weight. They have nothing or very little variety in their lives and somehow they seem to want you to entertain them. While that is alright for a little while you will soon run out of steam and energy to carry them. Having a full life indicates to a man that he does not have carry emotionally or even have to be continually entertaining you. That’s very good encouragement! If you don’t have one go get a life today. Start by joining a club, group or even volunteer for some charity.

Things like looks and how much money you make play only a small role. If you present yourself the correct way, traits like these won’t matter. Women want a masculine man that knows how to act appropriately in different situations. The term is often referred to the alpha male. A man being confident in himself, and his values, leads him to be more genuine and real. Women have a keen radar to detect this and being genuine will help build trust.

Going out and regurgitating different lines you’ve heard from other people is almost always ineffective. Men need to find their own way of showing there own unique qualities. This is not always easy, but very necessary. Women can see through all this, and once you understand how there mind works, then you can use that to your advantage. Getting inside the woman’s head is the best way to start attraction and is a technique that must be learned.

There is some great information out there on attracting a women. They are cheaper then seminars and often have money back guarantees. Don’t be afraid to seek out other’s advice, the attraction science has been studied since the beginning of time and there is no shame in using this to your advantage.

For the many inquiries I receive in regards to male enlargement, I highly suggest checking out : The Ultimate Attraction Guide

Joseph Grass is considered an expert an in the fields of human relationships and attracting the opposite sex.

Joseph Grass is a highly respected author with over 100,000 published views.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Joseph_Grass